I have been thinking about this for some time, what if you do achieve your goals and you do end up getting everything you ever wanted? Or at least, everything you think you want, right now, at this moment in time? What if you did have the relationship you want, and the family you want, and the money you want, the travel you want, the adventure you want, the sex you want? Would you be happy and fulfilled? I have come to the conclusion that it really depends. It depends on if the goal is goal driven or if it is value driven. The difference between the two does makes all the difference in the world.
Are you Goal Driven?
Having the relationship, the sex, the money, the family, the career, all sounds nice, but why then are some people who seem to have it all so unhappy and self destructive at sometimes, while others seem to be on top of the world with having the same amount? Take me for example, since I am a great example for this. When I went off to college my goals were to have a girlfriend, have lots of sex (sorry, but lets be honest), make friends, get good grades, do an internship, and land a fantastic first job. Mission accomplished, I ordered from the universe probably the most common and generic goals possible and that’s what was delivered to me. Though seemingly I had it all: the looks, the girls, the grades, the money, the success, I was unhappy.
I had the meaningless bedroom romps, and the unfulfilling relationship with a girl who I had no business of dating, I got the good grades in a subject matter that bored me to death, ended up getting a high paying “good” first job by any standard that left me wanting more out of life. Well that backfired in my face I thought! Like I talked about in my about me page, I took a step back and asked myself, why did things happen this way? What am I doing wrong? What can I do differently to get better results?
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