You love your girl friend right? Does she know? “Yea, why wouldn’t she”? You might be thinking. I’ll share a tough lesson learned. Girls like to be reassure of how you feel about them….on a regular basis mind you. Does he love me? Does he still love me? You may think that when the day comes when you marry them and say “I do” that your professing you love to the world about how you feel about them, that now the deal is done and your off the hook. Well the deal is never done for girls. Their tends to be an underlininginsecurity with girls, no matter how good the relationship. For example:
- When she asks do you love me, even though you didn’t do anything to indicate other-wise.
- Wants to talk, talk, talk about your relationship, a topic not really enjoyed by too many guys.
- Takes your need for space as indication that you don’t feel as strongly for her, or that your tired of her.
Girls think about their relationship a lot more than guys think about their relationship. Like most guys this probably only comes up on birthdays, holidays, family functions, weddings, and when things go bad. Remember, this is not so for women. Its always on their mind. Well, maybe not always on their mind, as in the forefront of their thoughts, but its always in the back of their minds. It moves to the forefront when you do something to trigger off those insecurities. Girls are not logical like guys. Their much more emotional. So even if you think that logically they should know you love them, that does not matter. If they feel like you may not love them, thats the same as not loving them.
So what the heck do you do? Simple. You have to do two things that is completely reasonable. First reassure her of how you feel on a regular basis. Especially in regards to her inherit insecurities. When you need space make it clear its not about her. When you have the occasional argument make sure she still knows you care about her and that your relationship with her is ok. Your just mad and need space. Also when she’s mad, she dosen’t need space, she needs a hug. Remember shes not a guy! The next thing you need to do is continually pursue her. Just like you did when you were not dating. Flirting, sending little emails, telling her how good you are together. Text messages during the day just to say hi. That kind of stuff. It’s the little things that count the most with girls. Constantly pursuing helps prevent many of her insecurities. She won’t question “does he love me” because your words and actions will make it clear.