Super Awesome Dating

Don’t get emotional with girls and keep Mr Nice Guy in check. Remain calm and confident. Use your sense of humor and your confidence to disarm girls. The girl in this conversation already liked me. Why? Because of the emotions I make her feel. Your never attracted to the person, your attracted to they way the other person makes you feel. That’s why attraction is never a choice. I did not have to convince her that she should like me, she just does; that’s how it is. As you will read, she would like to get over me because she is afraid of having strong feelings for me. Those feeling exist because on previous occasions I demonstrated qualities in a man she liked. The main one being confidence: That your happy with your life, your not looking to fill a void, you genuinely don’t care if she likes your or doesn’t, your just here to take a sincere interest in someone else.  Here is the email conversation I had with someone:

ME: Ok, I know what ill be dreaming about :)
HER:  Dream by your self lol bye im done with u.

ME: Miss you too babe lol.
HER: Hate you more. but i still love you.

ME: I know :).
HER: haha, so do you want me or not.

ME: Yea, you satisfy me like no one else. lets make plans.
HER: lol you just want sex for me. find some one else. I want a good guy I’m tired for bad like u all about sex.

ME: Oh whatever, you started it. Asking me ”so do you want me or not”.  I want good girl, you only like me for my blue eyes.
HER:  Ok were not working bye

ME: So it is only because of my blue eyes?
HER: I like everything about u even your so mean, and i know u just like me for my body.

ME: Some say your heartless, but i think your sweet and sensitive in your own way.
HER: So what. I just wanna be in love, but its hard to find the man that i like, and if i like some one. Then they don’t like me they just want sex. I am heartless if i don’t like the guy. But if i like them I’m so sensitive I get hurt right away.

ME:  Physical looks play a part for any guy, but that’s the same with girls, more importantly I like you b/c your unique in many ways: how you talk, how you think, things you want to do, where you come from, your goals, your strong nature.
HER: Why u being sweet now. You can be mean i use to it. I miss you i been thinking of you lately just u i don’t know why i hate it.

ME: Love takes a long time. you have to take a genuine interest in someone first. Not just one or two times.
HER: I don’t know. I don’t say i love u. There is something with you. I don’t know what to say about how I feel. I think I’m crazy.

ME: I know. Your a afraid of getting close to someone you actually might like; so you break it off quick and move on to the next guy. But to get close to someone it takes a lot of time.
guys move fast physically, but girls move fast emotionally. Both sides just need to slow it down, and just enjoy each other as people first.
HER: How we can have chance if we both keep dating with some one else.

ME: Well, we should both talk about that and make a decision. Dating with multiple people is fine at first, but then you have to make a commitment at some point. Why do you like me so much lol. I’m sorry you hate having feelings for me :). Maybe you just like my cologne?
HER: No you just mean, lol i don’t like u now,i like u cuz of your cologne lol nothing else ok.

ME:Your adorable. It actually bothers you that you like me. You like having all the power over guys huh?
HER: lol i hate u a lot. I think if we are married we ganna kill each other.

ME: Do I make you a bit nervous?
HER:  lol. Did you miss me.

ME: Yea, i miss the way you feel in my arms.
HER: Too bad its never happen again.

ME:Yea too bad, I really miss you.
HER: Ido miss you too. I don’t know what to do. Your only one I like.

ME: We should just take a genuine interest in one another. Just hang out get to know one another. No sex, no sleeping over ones place. Just conversation and one another’s company. After some time, then officially date and become exclusive. Like in college. You see the same people in class, parties, study groups so on. You get to know them first, then you start to like them for the right reasons, then you date. NOT date, then hope feeling develop. Make sense?
HER: Yes. first of all your only man I have sex from this site, and i know we have sex right away but i don’t plan that it just happen. I think I need to stop this. You think I’m just so easy woman,  fine  think what ever you want cuz i don’t care.

ME: I don’t think your some easy woman. We have chemistry and we like each other. I also was not talking about you and me in particular, and  I’m not seeing anyone else.               HER: ok why u still have this site if your not looking

ME: If we were committed this profile would be gone.
HER:  So what u saying lets keep find date? But I don’t want to share, I love so much about you.

ME: So you do love me, i knew it :).
HER:  lol i think we both crazy cuz we fight and joke same time.

ME: That’s why we work.
HER: lol are u sure? I really think we going to kill each other if we dont stop this cuz were not matches.

ME:No, I’m not sure, maybe we are, maybe we are not, but what the hell do i know? All i know is we have something unique going on.
HER: I think that’s why i like you cuz your so funny u make me smile. Your hard to get over.

ME: So your trying to get over me already? don’t fight it. spend more time with me.
HER: Yeah i try to over u but its hard. I don’t know why i like you. but your not nice to me. ok you spend time with me.

ME: Let me know if i can steal you away for a few hours, maybe lunch for a couple of hours?
HER: Ok maybe on Thursday my last free time. After that i ganna be so busy.

ME: Ok, for lunch? Or something in the evening?
HER: lunch cuz i need to sleep early cuz I’m busy on Friday for opening on Saturday. I cant wait im so happy my store is look so nice now. I’m going to bed now good night babes.

ME: Ok Thursday for lunch. ttyl

Many times within the conversation other men would have fallen into the trap of becoming too emotional. If you read the conversation, it was a bit joking in the begining, then fighting in the middle, and making up and making plans in the end. Crazy right? When she was “fighting me” she was really testing me. ALL girls do this in one way or another.  They test the man. She was testing me to see what I was really made of. Am I actually as emotionally strong as I come off? The results are in and it is a clear yes. I passed her test, and gave her one more thing to be attracted to me about.

You have to balance being cocky and sensitive to her feelings mind you. When she says “ok were not working, bye” or “you just want me for my body” DON’T give in and become too emotional by saying: “oh Im sorry baby, don’t be mad, I miss you, I really like you, I need you so bad, I was just kidding”. That kind of squabbling is never attractive. When she said that I only wanted her for her body, I said your only dating me for my blue eyes (she likes white men with blue eyes, just her preference….lucky me :) ) just to show that what she is saying was not getting under my skin. I just turn it around on her. It is called being cocky. Cocky is borderline to being a jerk so watch yourself. Be sensitive in the sense that YOU MUST let her know how you feel. Girls worry. They worry about their healthy, beauty, safety, their relationships. As I did in the conversation. She stated that I only liked her for her body, I first: Turned it around on her as I just demonstrated, but second: I also TOLD her why I like her for her. Things that do not involve her body. To show that I really do care for and she is important to me. Because really, when you squabble for a girl, that’s all your trying to show. That you care for her and she is important to you. You can definitely do that by remaining calm, confident and in control of yourself. You will be more attractive to her by remaining strong instead of getting emotional and squabbling. Don’t give in, and don’t get emotional with girls, because It will backfire on you as your giving her too much control over you.