Super Awesome Dating

One of the most attractive qualities in a woman is intelligence. For me, intelligence has always been something I have admired in other people, men or women. Heck even when I was a little kid my favorite teenage mutant ninja turtle was Donatello. Why? Because he was smart and created stuff.  Intelligence for me is a big turn on. Enough with the models and the cute cocktail waitress. The girls who think that just because their pretty and wear nice clothes they deserve Mr GQ  are not getting the entire equation when it comes to attracting high quality men. Simple minds can entertain for a while, but never forever for the true high quality man.  This is why smart men should date smart women. There is only one problem. As a smart man who has dated smart women, I can tell you this from experience. Too often, smart successful women suck at dating. There greatest asset (there mind) is sometimes a handicaps for them when it comes to finding love and happiness.

Women want an intellectual match. The tough part of finding a smart man is that the intelligence level of men vary wildly. Are men smarter than women? Research points to yes, BUT that intelligence for men varys. Men can be really smart and men can be really stupid. Women on the other hand, are a bit more stable and consistent. So while the smartest man may be smarter than the smartest woman, men can also be much more dumb (not big surprise right?). Think of it like the Olympics. The fastest woman will never be faster than the fastest man, but that dosent mean the fastest woman is not fast. I certainly could not keep up with her.

This intelligence variation in men is a big problem for smart women. Smart women, want to talk and connect deeply with a man. To feel engaged, inspired, and impressed by the man she is with. All women want to be proud of the man they are with, and smart women know, share your head before your bed. And part of getting to the bed part with smart women, is by first being intellectually stimulating to for them. Dumb men can’t do this for the smart woman. They don’t inspire or engage the woman on any meaningful level. Just perhaps surface level if the guy is really hot:

Because so many smart women can’t find their intellectual equal, they don’t develop the skill and charm to attract men, since they don’t date that much because of 1) Not finding the right kind of men to go out with and 2)There smart and successful for a reason, there busy with their lives and accomplishing their goals. So what is the solution? Smart women should date dumb men for the experience in dating. Dating just like ANYTHING else in life, is a life skill that needs to be learned and developed. By dating men just for fun and nothing serious, you learn what you like and don’t like in a man. But more importantly, you learn what attracts a man: Fun, youthful, nurturing, smart, loyal. Smart women suck at dating because they just don’t date enough. Just because you go out with a guy does not mean your going to get engaged with the guy. Lighten up, and just enjoy yourself. Go out with the man for yourself and not him. Learn how to date better. Read this site and date regularly.

Boss lady sounds like a nickname for a female rapper, but this is the side many smart successful women bring to the table with them when dating. Your on a date for crying out loud, not in a board meeting, or a classroom, or an interview. It is absolutely wonderful you have a great job, but make it a small topic when dating, unless you do something really interesting, or have a really interesting story to tell. Men don’t mind girls who kick ass and take charge, just as long as they don’t come off as a feminist with something to prove. Just like you think it is stupid if I told you,“hey im an entrepreneur that makes 6 figures  a year and I drive a BMW“: because it comes off like I’m trying to impress and convince you to date me, I think it is just as stupid as you trying to convince me that your my equal. If you are you are, if you are not, you are not. You don’t need to prove anything. Keep boss lady at work where she belongs.

Smart successful women suck at datingbecause they don’t make their love life a priority. It comes down to the law of attraction. As you see yourself the world will come to see you. What you project is what you will attract. If your focused on become X Y or Z and you haven’t really thought about the man in the picture with you. Well, there probably is not going to be a man for a while. Love does happen when you least expect it, but you need to give conscious thought to what kind of man you want to be with. What he looks like, what his nature is like, what he does for a living. It will be no surprise when that sort of man eventually enters your life. Remember, your relationships with other people is the greatest source of happiness for any of us. Love should never be an after thought.

Find your intellectual match, but also your romantic match. He has the right job and went to the right school and your parents love him, but don’t rush too quickly in marriage with him because you might end up being in a miserable relationship and not know why. Judging a man you date solely on his credentials is as shallow as a man judging you sole on your looks. You can marry for money and security, but you will still end up earning it in the long run.

Smart women suck at dating because they don’t date, because they don’t develop dating skills,  and as a result often times don’t know how to use their feminine charm. Here is some big news for you: Masculine men are attracted to feminine women. NOT masculine women. Men love a woman’s butt, hips, her full lips, long flowy hair, sexy voice, the way she moves and they way her clothes fit her. Were all suckers for that stuff since were more visual than emotional. Men are not attracted to women that make it a point to display masculine qualities because men express our love through providing and protecting you. If you don’t allow us to feel we are needed in this role for you, your not allowing one of our core needs to be meet. Allow the man to be a man, so you develop a level of comfort with him and you can show your vulnerable side. Just remember to be embrace the concepts of joy and compassion. Let him know how great he is. Make him feel like he’s a super star that can achieve any goal. If your that kind of supportive loyal woman, you wont have any competition, anywhere. And you may just find men coming out of the woodwork to be with someone wonderful like you.